3 Gentle ways to honor Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

If you or someone you love has lost a child before birth or during infancy, here are some ways to honor that.

Saturday, October 15, is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.

This annual memorial honors those lives lost to miscarriage, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, stillbirth, the death of a newborn, and more.

It can be hard to talk about pregnancy and infant loss, both because of cultural taboos and because of how painful and heartbreaking it is to describe. Yet there’s solidarity and support to be found in sharing personal experiences, and today is a space set aside to honor and remember those stories.

If you or someone you love has lost a child before birth or during infancy, you’re likely aware of this memorial, and perhaps you’re not sure how to honor it. Here are three gentle suggestions for ways to honor Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.

1Join a virtual prayer retreat for grieving parents

Red Bird Ministries, a Catholic grief support community for parents, is offering a 2-hour virtual prayer retreat on Saturday, October 15 at 8 a.m. PT, 9 a.m. MT, 10 a.m. CT, and 11 a.m. ET. Their website explains,

Behold and Beheld, organized by Kelly Breaux with Red Bird Ministries, Elizabeth Leon with The Journey to the Beloved, and Brianne Edwards with Lach’s Legacy, is our gift to the Church. We all come as families of child loss to pray with you and honor the life of your precious child. Registration is free but required for pdf materials. We are honored to pray with you on October 15 in memory of your beloved children.

To register for the Behold and Beheld virtual retreat, click on this link.

2Reach out to a friend

Support and companionship lift the burden of grief a little bit. If you are grieving a loss, today might be a good occasion to gather with other grieving parents. Or you might just text or call “that friend” who understands what you are going through.

If you know someone who is grieving, today is a timely occasion to send a note or reach out with a call or text message. Even a brief message of love and support means so much.

3Light a candle in prayer

In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, many families participate in the Wave of Light: At 7 p.m. on this day, they light candles in remembrance of the children they lost.

Taking part in this tradition can be a beautiful reminder of the light to be found all around us. It’s also a fitting time to offer a prayer, asking for God’s help and grace and for his love to surround all those grieving.