Betrayal from within the family is hard to bear. We might expect to be maligned by our enemies, but never imagine our own family members to be the source of our troubles.
A great intercessor for those experiencing this type of family turmoil, especially from in-laws, is St. Adelaide, patron saint against in-law problems. Her feast day is December 16.
Born to a royal family in Switzerland in 931, Adelaide had a tumultuous life, full of in-law drama.
She married King Otto I in 951 and had several children with him. They were married for about 20 years when he died of a sudden fever.
His death brought a whole wave of family problems as her son, Otto II, married the Byzantine princess Theophano. Adelaide’s new daughter-in-law turned Otto against his own mother, and the former Empress was forced to leave the royal court to live with her brother.
Daughter-in-law troubles
She worked hard to heal the division of the family and before her son’s death, the two were reconciled and Otto appointed Adelaide as his viceroy. However, her daugther-in-law again took the opportunity to cast Adelaide out of the royal court. Adelaide did not return to power until the death of Theophano.
In the midst of it all, Adelaide kept a strong prayer life and later on helped build and restore monasteries and churches, retiring to a convent near the end of her life.
Even though Adelaide was only partially successful in healing familial rifts, she knew the importance of a united family. Family distress hurts everyone involved and is one of the greatest crosses to endure.
United and dedicated to you
Here is a short prayer to St. Adelaide, asking her intercession for whatever situation you are currently enduring and for all families.
Heavenly Father, please help me with my family.
Fill my heart with love, peace, and charity and expel from it all divisive thoughts.
Please touch the heart of my in-laws, bring them closer to you through the intercession of St. Adelaide, so that our family can be whole, united, and dedicated to you.
I ask this through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
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